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Friday, 7 September 2012

Picture of the week


Former President Bill Clinton bows as President Barack Obama walks on stage after Clinton's address to the Democratic National Convention in Charlotte, N.C., on Wednesday, Sept. 5, 2012.

Food for thought, my people around here we say "Oyinbo no get respect" the west do not have respect. Former President Bill Clinton has just proved us all wrong.

Former president of South African Nelson Mandela also did it for his Former President Thabo Mbeki. He patiently waited for President Mbeki during the celebration of his birthday and rose in honour of a man that headed the government of the Republic of South Africa.

Respect transcends culture, boundaries and the colour of our skin.

Our leaders must learn from this, we the followers must also pick something from here too.

Bill Clinton is a rear leader.

 

Hero of the week

Michelle Obama

Mrs. Michelle Obama does not see herself only as the American first lady but she always describe herself first and foremost as Maila and Sasha’s mom.
But before she was a mother -- or a wife, lawyer or public servant -- she was Fraser and Marian Robinson's daughter.
The Robinsons lived in a brick bungalow on the South Side of Chicago. 
Fraser was a pump operator for the Chicago Water Department and Marian stayed at home mother who raised Michelle and her older brother Craig together with her husband.

Friday, 31 August 2012

True Heroes!

In a country where young people hardly find real people who they could call HERO, but today am glad that we probably have to change our direction and look into different arena away from the so call cabals and elites to found our true heroes who could inspire and mentor us to greatness.
 
At the just concluded London 2012 Olympic Games, millions of Nigerians like myeslf were all disspointed that our athletes did not win any single medal at the outing.
 
I'm proud to be a Nigerian once again with the oustanding performance of one Nigerian which many will have written off but Yakubu Adesokan has proven the doubting Thomases wrong by winning the first gold for Nigeria at the ongoing London 2012 Paralympic games which started yesteray, he also shattered the Olympic's record. Oh, he is a World Record Holder (WRO).

Wednesday, 29 August 2012

Professor Barth Nnaji in EPOH's hall of fame

Prof. Barth Nnaji, former Nigeria power minister
Professor Barth Nnaji the former power minister has just joined my list of Elite Public Office Holders (EPOH) in Naija.

EPOH might not make any sense to you now but let me analysis it maybe after my explanation it will be clearer.

E pronounce as erh in Yoruba language is used as first person singular YOU. It a word used for an elderly person and to show respect, POH is a street language that has somehow found its way into Yoruba lexicon and it is used to describe people with class and swaggering attitude. EPOH in Yoruba literarily means “You are swaggering”.


Prof. Jaja Wachukwu
Dr. Jaja Wachukwu the then aviation minister was the first minister to resign in Nigeria under Sir Tafawa Balewa after sacking Mr. Blankson who by pass his authority. He was asked to recall Blankson but he tendered his resignation letter.

Dr. Rilwan Lukman also resigned his appointment as petroleum minister under President Jonathan due to his frosty relationship with the president because some quarters believe he was one of  late president Umar Yar'dua loyalists.

Prof. Okonjo Iweala also resigned as a finance minister under Chief Olusegun Obasanjo regime

Dr.Adenike Grange a former health minister also resigned following an allegation of corruption on her in 2008.

Now in 2012, it's Prof Barth .Nnaji. This is the afthermath following the recent crisis that enveloped the ministry of power due to the ongoing privatization of Power Holding Company of Nigeria (PHCN) which the staff said that their interests were not well protected in  the exercise and it's also ot transparent. Oh, this is could be one of the gains of democracy. Power of freedom of expression and rejection (mywish).

Resignation of public office holders is not a common thing in Nigeria, public officers see public services as stay-till- die attitude until they're pushed out by authorities above or by natural death.
Scandals and public agitations against their policies and ideas are most times not enough reasons for them to toll this path of honour, at least we all saw the former attorney general of the federation Mr. Michael Aondoakaa.

I did not want to put any emphasis on the cause of his resignation but with this new development, this has shown that there is hope for our great nation.

I join our president Mr. Jonathan to thank the former minister for his services to the country and wished him well in his future endeavour.

But if there is any need for the EEFC or ICPC to call him in the future, I hope he will honour them.

 

Tuesday, 28 August 2012

Happy birthday to my Super GALS

True friends are rear to come by but over the years you both have shown friends are worth having.

"A friend should be one in whose understanding and virtue we can equally confide, and whose opinion we can value at once for its justness and its sincerity."  -Robert Hall

I remember meeting my girls in APCON class in 2007, will I say it's by chance or God's destiny because I'm sure He knows I will later need you both at all points and curves of my life.
Olabimpe

Olabimpe ore mi owon, your creative mind is second to none, your sincerity to God is what I always admire.

How do I apology for not remembering this special day, August 27. This is a day in every year  that together with other great people we put smiles on over 1000 peoples faces.

Oh baby I'm deeply sorry, I hope I can make it up to you because no busyness  is worth an excuse for forgetting a true HEROIN like you.

"It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Happy birthday my wiffy, God bless you!


 Olashile

Olashile omo Adesegun aya Adediran, today August 28 is your special day.
I'm truly bless to have you in my life. You're sunlight and  you brighten all nature that you come across . 

Thank you for chosen me as your friend.
"When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand." -Henri Nouwen 

Happy birthday my sister from another mother.
Olashile and Olabimpe.........the priceless gifts from God.

Olashile and Olabimpe you both are born with wealth and you have shared the wealth of friendship with me without boundaries , girls I can never trade you for any other precious gems.
"A true friend freely, advises justly, assists readily, adventures boldly, takes all patiently, defends courageously, and continues a friend unchangeable. " William Penn

Thursday, 23 August 2012

UNILAG toilets, oh no this can't be true

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When you are in situation that you're pressed to use the restroom nothing in the world makes any sense to you until you do needful.
“The flush toilet, more than any single invention, has 'civilized' us in a way that religion and law could never accomplish.”  - Thomas Lynch. Now I understand why he said these words.

The usual examination tension or the anxiety of not sure of what questions will come out might be the reason of my being pressed which lead to my visit to the rest room at that just concluded post graduate's entrance examination or it's just nature call in the prestigious University of Lagos.

I do everything within my human capacities to avoid visiting public toilet especially in naija, but how do one explain it when your whole body is total tensed because you've not written any qualifying exams in years.

The class in which this university is place amongst its peers in Nigeria will give anybody the confidence that this public institution will be different from any other in the system, but alas I was dead wrong.

Rest rooms are suppose to be a place to find convenience and freshening up if need be. 

Public toilets in this part of the world are places you don't go except you are ready to visit a gynecologist after using them, the ladies are worse with littered tissues papers, sanitary towels and blood stains which are used to mess it up and it makes you want throw up.

The Unilag toilets especially the one closed to New Hall was well structured from outside, seeing this gave me a relief that it will be different from the normal toilets one is used to, but getting in was a total eyesore.

Thursday, 2 August 2012

Reading For this holy month of Ramadan.

Al-Quran for the month of August.


To all my family members, friends and associates that are Muslims I wish you all the very best in this holy month of "Ramadan" and may Allah accept all our prayers and reward us greatly in this world and the hereafter.

In the spirit of the sacred month I've decided to read the holy book Al-Quran Kareem. If you are not a Muslim you might not understand the bond of Muslims reading the Quran at this great moment.

Quran was revealed to Mohammed(saw) in the month of Ramadan. I'm sure you propably do not know about this!  It is the month of Ramadan that the Qur'an was revealed as a guidance for mankind, clear proofs giving guidance, and the Criterion (for distinguishing right and wrong). So whoever of you witnesses this month, let him fast it.” [2:185]

Now I'm sure you know why my attachment with the book I call by many names but my favourite of them are "the constitution and guide of life" is huge.

Reading of Quran is done by most Muslims, it is done quietly and with the best of rhythms and tones. Some people finish reading the whole Quran in few days while some finished it once within the one month of Ramadan. I but I hope I can do it twice considering my busy schedule insha Allah.

But sometime I wonder, do people reflect on what they read? or are they just reading for reading sake? These questions keep bothering me because of the level of violence going on in norther region of Nigeria, the level of corruption at all government levels and our individual lives, the unfriendly manners with which we disrespect our fellow human beings in the name of class, religion and our wealth . But this topic will be for another day insha Allah.

My reason and passion for reading the Quran is that it covers all areas of life like social values and etiquette, marital, economy, health, politics and many more areas of life you can think of.

Some of the areas which keep me on my toes of being good to all I come across in life whether black or white, be it Muslims, Christians, Pagans, Hindus or Jews, short or tall, male or female, young or old are texts which Allah has used to call us to order as believers of faith to treat all men equally.

Respect for Human Life
"Do not kill yourselves, for verily Allah has been to you most merciful" -Quran 4:29

" Take no life which Allah has made sacred" -Quran 6:51

Human Dignity
"Now indeed, we have conferred dignity on all the children of Adam, and borne them over land and sea, and provided for them sustenance out of the good things of life, and favoured them far above most our creation" -Quran 17:70 

Freedom of  Choice and Religion
"There is no compulsion in religion, truly the right way has become clearly distinct from error; therefore whoever rejects Satan (and what he calls to) and believes in Allah, he indeed has laid hold on the firmest handhold, which shall not break off, and Allah is Hearing and Knowing" -Quran 2:256

Cleanliness
"Indeed, Allah loves those who are constantly repentant and loves those who purify themselves" -(2:222)

Equity of All
"O men! Behold, We have created you all of a male and a female, and have made you into nations and tribes,

Justice to Orphans

Women's Inheritance Rights
"The men get a share of what the parents and the relatives leave behind. The women too shall get a share of what the parents and relatives leave behind. Whether it is a small or a large inheritance, (the women must get) a definite share" - 4-7

Murder, Suicide, and Illicit Gains Prohibited 
"O you who believe, do not consume each others' properties illicitly— only mutually acceptable transactions are permitted. You shall not kill yourselves. GOD is Merciful towards you" -4:29

Law of Human Existence
You shall worship GOD alone—do not associate anything with Him. You shall regard the parents, the relatives, the orphans, the poor, the related neighbor, the unrelated neighbor, the close associate, the traveling alien, and your servants. GOD does not like the arrogant showoffs.

If one can't reading the Arabic quran, just go for the transliterated, translated or the audio version of it. Enjoy the best of quranic reading this glorious month.

I ask myself if we do these and many others stated law in the Quran, are we going to ever have wars, hunger, injustice and corruption. Allah know best.

As I go back to the reading of my Quran, I encourage you to read it with or without Ramadan.

Ramadan Mubarak!






Monday, 30 July 2012

Ideal Muslimah

My second book for this month is titled “The Ideal Muslimah”

“Ideal according to Webster dictionary is defined as a mental conception regarded as a standard of perfection; a model of excellence, beauty, etc, Muslimah in Arabic is Muslim Woman”. From this I know that the title will be more meaningful to my non-Muslim readers.

The book is authored by Dr. Muhammad Ali-al-Hashimi, it was originally written in Arabic and was later translated to English by Nasirudin al-Khattab.

It’s a 534 pages book with 10 thought striking chapters. The book is written in simple English that can be easily understood by any class of literates, it has Arabic worlds used in some part but the good thing is that the meanings were later given at the end of the book’s chapters.




      The following topics were treated in it:      
1.      The Muslim woman and her Lord
2.      The Muslim woman and her own self
3.      The Muslim woman and her parents
4.      The Muslim woman and her husband
5.      The Muslim woman and her children
6.      The Muslim woman and her sons and daughter-in-laws
7.      The Muslim woman and her relatives
8.      The Muslim woman and neighbours
9.      The Muslim woman and her friends and sisters in Islam
10.  The Muslim woman and her community or society

What more areas of our lives were not touched in here? Honestly I can’t think of any for now.

 For any serious Muslim wife and bride to be, this is a kind of bye law that you must get to support your knowledge of the Quran and Hadith of the prophet in your journey to womanhood.

Not until I read Ideal Muslimah that I realized what Islam stands for and the role of women in this contemporary age. Just read these, I ‘m sure you will be amazed at the level of civilization in the religion we all think is backward in modern times…….

Her body
Moderation in food and drink, “eat and drink: but waste not the excess, for Allah loves not the waster.”  -page 128

She takes care of her mouth, teeth and her hair.
The intelligent Muslim woman takes care of her mouth, for no one should ever have to smell an unpleasant odour coming out of it. She checks her teeth and visits the dentist at least once a year. –page 133 

Narrated by Abu Hurayah that Allah messenger said “whoever has hair, let him look after it properly.” -Page 135

She exercise regularly
“The Muslim woman does not forget to maintain her physical fitness and energy by following healthy practice recommended by Islam.” –page 129

Good appearance
She presents herself a pleasant appearance to her husband, children, muhram relatives and other Muslim women and people feel comfortable with her. She does not put them off with an ugly and untidy appearance.
Who has forbidden the beautiful (gift) of Allah, which He has produced for His servants, and the things, cleans and pure, (which He has provided for sustenance?,,,,, (Quran 7: 32)

She never stops reading and studying
The Muslim woman does not let her household duties and the burdens of motherhood prevent her from reading widely, because she understands that reading is the source which will supply her mind with nourishment and knowledge which it needs in order to flourish and grow.” -Page 153

She sits wherever she finds room in a gathering
A refined Muslim woman does not force her way through the group of women who are sitting, or push them aside in order to force them to make a space for her. This is in accordance with the teaching of the prophet (SAW) which he taught his companions to adopt when they joined his gathering.

Jabir ibn Samurah said, “When we came to the prophet, we would sit wherever we found room –page 406.
The volume might want to discourage you especially those who are not ardent readers but trust me I’m sure after the first few pages you’ll not want to drop it until the last page.  Guess what? It might be a survival guide for people like me, it can also be giving as gift for any Muslim bride or family you love.

Every woman should have this in her library.  if  you don’t have one, please start building it because you will be amaze at the level you will get within a year.

I’m sure some people might be asking if I’m bias about my reading or if I only read Islamic books, but wait a minute I read all sort of books ranging from biography, autobiography, parenting, gardening, cooking, management and etiquette building, I mean any book that caught my imagination and fascination. 

To my other folks from other religion I will read Christian marital books soon just stay glue and constantly check on my reviews on the page. A la prochaine!

Thursday, 26 July 2012

You are simply not alone

Love Loneliness Syndrome (LLS), you are simply not alone on this.

You are not just alone in this worry of loneliness, everybody around you are asking you when will you marry? Each year when you celebrate your birthday, 70 percent of the prayers and wishes you get are based on “by this time next year you will be celebrated and it shall be in your husband house”.

Everyday passes without a sign of a beau anywhere round the corner and are you begin to search your mind if you have done anything wrong to anybody or your ancestors are against you or maybe you’re not just destined to find love. You mother will also let you realize is not good for a lady to be to choosy, every time people see you in friends’ wedding aso ebi they will pray for you that "laipe laijina ti e naa de" -sooner than expected yours shall be the next”.

My gal you are not alone in this because thousand of young women around the globe are in this club of sans beaus especially in Nigeria where marriage is seen as a pride and societal insurance for women, many young women of marriageable age are also going through heartbreaks, loneliness and no man to call their sweetheart or babies. You must learn to enjoy your spinsterhood while it last without losing your values and your integrity.

My sister, I will simply suggest that you look beyond your loneliness and brace up so that you prepare yourself to be a better wife material that any man who deserves a queen will die to have you because you can be generational changer that will inspire if not everyone at least your child(ren) unborn, what all my grammar is simply telling you is that add consideration amount of value to your person.

You think why is she sounding like a counselor or a motivator, maybe I should let you know that I was also jilted close to marriage in a relationship of five years, I had my own fair share of lonely moments which after some months I had to figure out what I needed to do to in order to hold my head up in bracing up to the challenges. So I faced the monster called Love Loneliness Syndrome (LLS).

It was a journey that I lived with for more than 4years, when I looked back to that path I keep asking myself how and how do I coped without landing in a psycho home. Whoever tells you that is a smooth race on a smooth path is probably not telling you an honest truth.
At this moment, self pity will naturally sets in and it's energy sapping that no human being needs because being rejected by people you loved are not 100 percent your fault, every being human deserves to be happy on earth I guess that’s what God destined for His creatures especially people who have lost loved ones through death or rejection.
You need to take a break and stop blaming yourself for this rough journey you are threading, take a holistic look and come up with a strategy which will makes you not hold on to your past to destroy your bright future. Look at you past critical so that it can help leapfrog you to your desired future.

 Below are some of the techniques which have helped to redefine and reshape personae for my desire new future, it maybe good and helpful if your try some of these techniques. All of them might not work for you but be rest assured that at least one or two of these will, all you need to do is to tailor it to your situation.


1.       Get a job because if you’re out of job you are like a prisoner confined to a four wall of a room with no control of her own life and destiny.

2.       Further your education, it is generally accepted that education is a sunlight and ray of hope to a dark vision.

3.       Travel because if you enjoy seeing nature at its best just like me, you will see how nature can charm you and bring you back from your lost hope. Also travelling make you see the other side of life and you will probably thank God for the gift of life which alone is worth more than any love that can be given by any human being. 

4.       Follow an intensive physical improvement plan, do exercise and release the tension. Believe it or not your tension level has risen beyond imagination and you need to release them so that you do not go down beyond your crashed level now.

5.       Read more and keep yourself better informed, knowledge is power and it keeps your at an advantage vintage position that add class to your panache.

6.       Seek psychological counseling if need be it might in your church, synagogue, monastery  and mosque or from professional psychologist because they are most like more experienced than you are and with bank of knowledge you most likely cannot go wrong if yield to their valuable advice. 

7.       Make new friends from both sexes, true friends are worth more than diamond or platinum. They are very valuable, trust me no money can buy them because they will always be there for you.

8.       Rediscover your talents, those thing you’ve always loved to do or thing that you wished when you have the time that you will do. This is the time to channel your energy back into them so that you can become a better person and much better at them.

9.       Become a volunteer, there is happiness when you help other especially does who do not have. When you give unconditional love to people who cannot afford to pay you back in cash or kind, it gives the givers piece of mind which is what you currently need. 

10.   Remember the house of worship of your choice, the word of God is ever soothing and they are balm you need to help you heal your broken heart. 

11.   Love as if you’re never being hurt, one day it will surely pay off but be firm so as not to exchange love for your body because it can be very tricky and when you loss at both end it can suicidal most time.

12.   Love God unconditional because He is the only one that can give you agape love, just leave your life for God you can never underestimate the soothing and healing power of God.

13.   My beloved gal, create you own happiness because you deserve to be happy. Any man that doesn’t merit you to have you as a queen does not deserve to make you cry.
 
With much love from this end, my gal your man and prince charming is around the corner just be very vigilant, take things easy and be calm. I can only say I can’t wait to have your wedding invitation, congratulations in advance!

Thursday, 19 July 2012

Special tribute to Ambassador of Peace


This month I've decided to read two books. I'm doing this to honour a man I've seen for over two decades on Nigerian television without any scandal (I guess our today's stars must learn a lesson from this great man). Ambassador Chief Segun Olushola, mni,OFR, was a man of many parts, he was a teacher, an actor, a director,  an ambassador and a humanitarian. He meant different things to so many people.

For my parents' contemporaries who watched him emerge as an actor, director and producer of class, they have a lot to say about his artistic panache and the roles he played in the rested popular soap opera The Village Headmaster aired n NTA in the 80’s. For me and some of my contemporaries, we can confidently say that he was an advocate of African refugees.
                                                        He was the founder of African Refugees Foundation- AREF.

The book titled “Segun Olushola The Real Village Headmaster” was given to me by the author -Mr Akin Iroko who I worked with briefly, he was a consultant on a DFID program of which my organization was a benefactor. Ambassador Olusegun on the other hand was the honourary president of my organization. Mr. Iroko gladly gave me a complimentary copy of the book for my library.

The book has 10 chapters and 131pages. It touched on the following areas, his early beginning, his career, the zenith of his life, his ambassadorial sojourn to Ethiopia, his achievements as a diplomat, his philanthropic service to African Refugees which led to the establishment of AREF.

The book also touched on his family life, his marriage to Elsie Olusola (Sisi Clara) the screen goddess of The Village Headmaster, their children, her death, his remarriage to his first girlfriend after the demise of Elsie and his adopted children. The history of television in Nigeria’s post-independent era was also not left out.

 There were so many memorable areas that I love in the book, but I will share two of those parts I cherished.

 On page 106, he said, “A culture of peace must begin with a deliberate educational project that would inculcate the primary values of democracy at the grassroots. This is a confirmation of a level of ignorance at the grassroots which only education can cure.”

 Chief Olushola delivering a public lecture on Akin Iroko’s fiftieth birthday on the subject of coping with culture, communication and change said:

“In order to confront the problems of the year 2000 – Nigerians must construct a culture of social, culture science and material technology based on the tradition of the past…..

 The BBC is not iron or steel-
  It is people and ideas
  It is doing so very well for Britain
  It cannot do as well for Nigeria
  It is capable of harming Nigeria
  The English Language is not neutral-
  It possesses an inherent bias against the Nigerian people
  It is a burden which must be tolerated, not accepted
  Wherever goes the wig and gown-
  There goes the coat and tie
  -and the only way is out.
  For none of these are simply functional –
  And all of them are symbols-
  Communication and culture reminders of
  Nigeria’s painful past.
  In the tradition of one of Nigeria’s illustrious ancestors, they are boycottable and should be     boycotted….
  So Nigeria is not an island.
  It is as well that Nigeria is not a refuse dump.

 If the youth and youthful must dance disco, let them create the music from the traditions of Bata-koto, Atilogwu and ata dabai, and other varieties of musical idioms.
Coping with culture, communication and change without creativity is being a passenger.”

 As I finished typing this speech, I couldn’t but wonder how big Ambassador’s creativity repertoire was.

 Mrs. Ibidun Allison (Amebo of The village Headmaster) just gave me my answer, when she described Chief Segun Olushola in this book as “reliable and talented in every field”.

On this note, I join many of his numerous fans across the world to say that he will be truly missed and the thought of finding another Olusola brought William Shakesphere to my mind “ All the world is a stage and all men are merely players…”

 For sure I know, I will read this book all over again.